Starting from scratch might be an unsettling thought, but often we are forced to start over in our lives. Whether it is a new career, a new romance, or building everything from the ground up again – starting over is scary. It isn’t impossible, however. No matter how things are going, you can embrace starting over with these tips.
- Trust Your Instincts
If you start feeling like it is time to start over in some way – then give those feelings some serious thought. We all have moments like this, but if your moments are always on your mind, then you might need to honor those feelings.
- Take Some Time
No matter the context, starting over, is rarely done quickly or without regret. Honor those feelings. Taking some time to mourn your loss before you start thinking about your future will help you get ready to start over.
- Believe it is Possible
People often have to start over during dark times. You might have lost your job, loved one, or your romantic partner. You might worry that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. You are wrong. You can start over, and you will be stronger than before once you do.
- Forgive Your Past
If you are starting over because of a mistake or a failing of yours, please try to forgive yourself. How can you possibly start a new journey, if you have self-loathing hanging over your head? The past is the past; forgive yourself and forge a new path forward.
- …But Don’t Forget it
Forgiving yourself is one thing, but you don’t want to forget your entire past. No matter what, the failures (and successes) of the past should have taught you something. Analyze what worked for you in the past, and double down on that in the future. Figure out what didn’t work, and try to avoid those failings on your new journey.
- What Do You Want?
Starting over can be scary, but there is also some excitement. What do you want for the “new you”? Is there anything you have always wanted to do, try, or even be? Starting over is your chance at making things right, so honor your personal preferences.
- Reach Out
When you have to start over, it can be pretty overwhelming. Take some time to reach out to your closest loved ones. They can be the rock that you cling to, while the waves of life batter you. You will be surprised how readily people will be willing to help.
- Create a Plan
People who are starting over often feel rudderless and lost. One way to ease those feelings is to start thinking of your future. Don’t just think though – make plans. Set some goals. Focus on the short-term and the long-term. Merely thinking about this “plan of action” will help ease your worries about the unknown.
- Embrace The Future
We don’t get a lot of chances at fresh starts, so when you get one – embrace it. I know a lot of agony and heartbreak can lead to starting over, but this is a time where all of your options are open. Take the time you need to mourn your past life, but don’t feel ashamed if you feel more than a little excited about what’s to come.
FURTHER READING
A fresh start in life is easier than you think, if you follow these tips.
